“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
-2 Corinthians 6:14
Samson and Delilah sitting in a tree k.i.s.s.i….oh wait wrong story. Samson was conceived for a purpose, chosen by God to deliver Israel out of the hand of the Philistines and a man of incredible strength. It would’ve appeared as though his entire life was divinely mapped out by the Heavenly Father himself. However, Samson’s choice of freewill went against the will of God and this choice would eventually lead to death.
“For, lo, thou shalt conceive, and bear a son; and no razor shall come on his head: for the child shall be a Nazarite unto God from the womb: and he shall begin to deliver Israel out of the hand of the Philistines.”
I believe as many of us have once stated…Samson stated as well “You don’t know what you’re talking about we are in love!!! Delilah would never betray me…”. Perhaps Samson is on point concerning the motives of his new found love. So who is Delilah you may ask? The Bible does not go into great detail about her but, it does give the role that she plays in Samson’s life.
“And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah. And the lords of the Philistines came up unto her, and said unto her, Entice him, and see wherein his great strength lieth, and by what means we may prevail against him, that we may bind him to afflict him: and we will give thee every one of us eleven hundred pieces of silver.”
Judges 16:4-5 KJV
Seeing the love that Samson felt for Delilah the leaders of the Philistines saw it as a way in and offered up a huge monetary reward to Delilah. After questioning Samson repeatedly for the secret to his great strength it would’ve appeared that Samson’s discernment would kick in and alert him to the danger that he was in. Samson finally gave in and told her the secret his seven lovely locks of hair were to never be cut off of his head and if they were he would lose his incredible strength (Judges 16:17).
Bingo!!! Delilah jumps into action serenading him and allowing him to fall asleep on her knees she grabs the clippers and shaves off his hair (Judges 16:19). The Philistines seize Samson, gouge out his eyes and imprison him (Judges 16:21). Poor Samson literally “blinded” by what he thought was love. Eventually his hair begins to grow back and Samson regains his strength (Judges 16:22). As he was chained to two middle pillars that supported the roof in which the temple stood, he gathered every bit of his strength and pulled the pillars down killing himself and everyone under the temple (Judges 16:27-30).
So what can we take away from the not so great love story of Samson and Delilah?
When we operate outside of the will of God, we leave ourselves open to the attacks of the enemy. Being unequally yoked in our relationships is like committing spiritual suicide. Sure, their looks may be appealing and they are everything you’d ever imagined your God sent would be. But, where is their heart? Keep in mind that God looks at the heart and not the outer appearance (1 Samuel 16:7). So do not allow loneliness and lust to override God’s divine plan for you because, you may miss out on what God has in store.
Being likeminded and on one accord are just a few of the many added benefits of being equally yoked in your relationships. You can not force anyone to be on the same level spiritually, just as you can not force them to understand God’s purpose for your life. Let’s face it Samson was chosen by God and Delilah was chosen to entice him into giving up his secret. Therefore, we must understand the importance of protecting the divine plan that God has called us for. Remember the safest place to be is in the will of God.
- Just because, they love God it does not qualify them to be your God sent.
- Does the fruit match the tree? (Spiritually are they growing and producing fruit or is there fruit nearly dead and is the growth stunted?)
- Use your discernment (If your discernment meter is ticking chances are it is not for you.)
- Talk to God about them he will give you revelation concerning them.
- Talk is cheap, watch their actions.
- Be aware of wolves in sheeps clothing.
- Don’t not play the game of “do they love me or love me not” with your heart because, the chances are if you have to ask it’s not love. (“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Proverbs 4:23 KJV)